Why I Deleted My Successful Blog

I have read of authors writing entire books then throwing them in the trash. Perhaps that is what I am doing here. All I know is that I needed to start over.

I got caught up worrying about affiliate marketing and the blogging circle-jerk. No longer.

My strength has always been sharing my story for others to learn from.

On my old site I could no longer do that. I made the mistake of telling a few people in my personal life about that blog, and from that point forward I could feel underlying stress every time I’d write.

I wasn’t writing freely.

I had the most fun writing a couple of years ago when I was completely anonymous on a free blog platform.

Now, I was holding things back, and that was hurting you, the reader.

It’s the deepest, darkest observations of our own soul that transform us. It is also the realization that we are not alone in feeling them that gives us strength.

I want to write for you. I don’t want to write for SEO or affiliate marketing.

I was spending too much time with technical issues, themes, email lists, and hosting plans.

I got tired of worrying about a featured image or getting all the links right in my posts. Too much time spent.

My time is limited and I feel invigorated when I write. I want to write, plain and simple.

I feel a tremendous weight lifted by deleting that old blog.

I will bring back the best posts and update them here. They helped a lot of men, but now I can help even more.

Don’t believe the lie that you need top notch hosting and your own domain to share your message.

The biggest influencers in this sphere use free wordpress.com themes and hosting.

I was spending too much money. I like simplicity and I had made things complicated. My operating expenses on that blog were several hundred dollars a year, yet it was arguably no better than a free blog.

My goal is to have my living expenses as low as possible. That brings freedom.

From now on I can write for you, and me.

Will I switch over to a fancy url again someday? Maybe. Probably not.

Will I do affiliate marketing? No.

Will I monetize? I will sell a book someday, that’s it. I do some coaching for divorced guys as well, that won’t change.

Here’s the thing, I’m not going to self-promote and have some big launch of my next big project. I don’t have a long-term plan like that, I’d be lying if I said I did.

Nope, I am making all of this up as I go along, and that’s the beauty of it. No over-thinking or trying to stay “on message”. Just me and my thoughts and an uncertain path.

Thanks for following along.



16 thoughts on “Why I Deleted My Successful Blog

  1. Thank you for doing this mark. I get caught up in xdays and truthful trouble shoveling affiliate marketing crap down my throat day after day, it’s about time somebody in the sphere took a stand. No disrespect to them but you are an older, wiser, more mature person as they are early twenties. Thank you mark and good luck. Keep fighting the good fight.

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  2. Now you know for sure that your writing is more important than blogging-for-money. Glad you will be back to posting.

    I’ve always considered showing my face and such. But I do not think it is worth it in the end. If one has a strong message, that should be enough.

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  3. Mark, I just wanted to say I really enjoy your writing style. It is very entertaining, succinct, and captivating. Keep up the good work!

    My side definitely has a lot of affiliate links in it, but they are products that I use myself. Any perspective you have for my side from a guy who used to do affiliate marketing and then deleted his site? I’m always trying to balance the act of providing good content and generating revenue.


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    • Thank you! That means a lot coming from you, someone I respect a great deal.

      I don’t see anything wrong with affiliate marketing, they’re just links to quality resources that have worked for you. My message was to young, new bloggers that start writing for affiliate income before they’ve established an audience and a voice. It leads them astray.

      I’ve used your affiliate links a few times. They’re appreciated. I wouldn’t change a thing. Your message has always come before the revenue.


      • Good to hear Mark. Funny thing I realized several years ago was that I was able to find products that fit with the existing content that I had already written. So once I found that synergistic fit, it was actually quite easy to generate revenue because ironically I wasn’t writing with the affiliate product and mind first.

        But now, I sometimes do, but I try to tell the story first. The other strategy is to just put the affiliate copy a week or two after the post is published to not burn out my readers.

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  4. Hey there Mr Baxter.

    You may not know me well but I am a fan of your previous work.

    We followed each other and had interesting discussions.

    Interested to see you with a new blog after you killed the previous.

    I have done the same.

    Words don’t say how much it’s humbling that your followed my blog first.

    I’ll do my best to provide comments which help men grow…

    To be something greater than their expectations.

    Flying high as the seagulls with dreams do.

    (Unexpectedly a great book by the way… Jonathan Livingston Seagull by Richard Bach)

    Lets see where our flights take us.


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    • Yes, sir. Now I remember. I hope you are well. Thanks for reading. In my previous blog I became obsessed with growth. That was a poor strategy that took me away from my original message. This one is different. I look forward to catching up on your blog as well.


      • Remember those words you have typed Mark.

        I think it will be interesting to see months/years from now, if the Monster you call Growth comes back.

        And so see how you act once he comes back.

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      • That’s the paradox, isn’t it? More growth = spread the message, but to achieve more growth one may have to get a bit uncomfortable and pursue such growth, then be careful not to let it change the message. Not an easy task. I am often afraid to “market” myself for fear of seeming not authentic. It’s probably a fear I’ll have to overcome.


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